Relationships After Becoming Conscious

As with personal growth and change you can imagine that relationships with significant others, family, and friends can change.

Why wouldn't it?

Your perception of your reality is changing, your thoughts are changing, and your beliefs are changing,.


When you begin to find light, your perception of your current belief system changes. You start to see things past the obvious and you begin to pay more attention to the multiple layers that exist in this life. Your light can either draw or repel people. Some people in your life just may be confused about the changes you are making and your responses to certain situations. Humans are creatures of habit and when they see things out of “their” ordinary it can be confusing. The people who truly love you without condition may be confused, but may eventually try to understand your new perspective on life. They may even start coming to you for advice or to hear your stance on certain aspects of life. Some may even start to adapt some of your views as well. Or...they may not and that is perfectly okay.


Healthy relationships are about unconditional love and acceptance. However, you must remember that relationships are a two way street. Just as they may be confused about your changes, you may be confused about them being content or happy with their beliefs. You may find yourself judging others and even expressing that judgment with no filter. The best thing you can do is not be fanatical to the point that you forget the love you have for significant people in your life. For example, even though you may no longer celebrate Christmas, you don't actually have to miss out on connecting with family because you feel that certain holidays are counterproductive to your growth. Over the years many families have made certain holidays family traditions. As some people get older they tend to take their own path away from these traditions, but these traditions do not have to be counterproductive to your growth. Being present for that familial love does NOT have to take away from from your new perspective on life.


As far as intimate relationships, patience is important. You all may not see eye to eye, but does that stop you all from being together? Unconditional love and being able to grow with someone, whether your values are the same or not, helps determine that answer. Showing interest in each others desires as well as acceptance is important. Your partner may take on some of your beliefs or they may not. It's also possible that you two may begin to repel each other, and if that happens accept that and use that experience as growth. Do not hold animosity in your heart for that person and your experience.


Initially, change is not roses and sunshine. There are growing pains and loss when you are evolving, but there is always a pot of gold at the end. Whether your mate is with you on the journey to the gold is the decision to be made.

As you change and become more enlightened, you will begin to attract new like minded people. However, remember you were once that person who was trying to find their way. If anything, determine if unconditional love is what you value. Also, from my experience any “friends” that have become distant because of my transformation needed to be shifted from my inner circle. Some vibrations will no longer vibrate with your own, but that is just a part of life.