You have more control over your actions than anyone or what has happened in the past. The feeling of stagnation or saying “It is what it is” gives that experience or person power over who you are, which they do not deserve.
Take back your power.
How do I take back my power?
Taking back your power can take many forms. There is power in scribing, so one way is to write letters in reference to the situation, or to the person if it involves others, regarding how you feel and how you are releasing the hold it has over you or the stuck energy that still resides in your spirit. These letters are not necessarily for them; they are for YOU, so they are not to be sent. Burn or discard them. Everything you wish you could've said, things you would like to say about how it is afflicting you, how you are a better person because the experience and letting go, whatever …should be placed in these letters.
Another method is speaking what you said aloud or pairing your meditation with your imagination so that you can express those feelings. For example, you visualize the person and speak everything that will release you from their control. With these two methods it also good to write a letter or speak to yourself. For example, you could write a letter to the old you to express how you feel about yourself and your actions.
The next step to attracting all of your blessings and positive experiences and people is to affirm your worthiness. Wherever your imagination takes you to the path of positive healing is what will work for you. This is not a one-stop shop for letting go and reclaiming your power. It takes practice and repetition to release years of negative emotions and experiences, but what matters is starting. Only then will things begin to fall into place. Time is an illusion; so don't be concerned about it. Just know that you will be able to let go of those feelings, just like you have of situations and/or people that did not mean as much to you before.
Lastly, do not be a fool.
LEARN from your experiences. Recognize where they have led you. Some people are not worth a repeat. Take toxic family members for example. These are people who are best dealt with from a distance to avoid a transference of negative energy. Toxic friends and former significant others also should not be dealt with at all to protect your peace.
However, some people are worth it, but that entails having discernment about healthy and unhealthy relationships. Many of us actually need to start by learning to forgive our parents because they have lived their own experiences as well. Our parents (both biological and non-biological) are the first people we develop a bond with. It is from them that we learn how to love, hate, dislike, and like in this world. We saw how they treated each other, how they treated other people, how other people treated them, how you felt as their child, their values, priorities, etc. They were our models of so called perfection or imperfection and rather you want to admit it or not, we take those values on to other relationships. Examine that dynamic and see how it relates to you circumstances.