It sucks that when it is time to let go that we are unsure about when and the how to do so. Unfortunately, many of us were not taught how to let go at an early age, so we struggle in adulthood to know when it is time to leave our significant other, leave a job, move to a different state or any pressing life challenge that causes a shift in our routine. Sometimes people stay in stagnate and/or unhappy relationships because they fear the loss of time, missing out on things possibly getting better, starting over, thinking about what others what think of them, being lonely, etc. Also, despite letting go of a person/situation, there is still some aspect of them/it that we hold on to. This can be a disservice to ourselves, especially since being angry at what has transpired does nothing for you but cause you to wallow in your anger or act it out.
In many instances, if you are angry with someone, you are actually hurting yourself more than the other person. This person may not see your perspective, may not know or even care. Therefore, they are free of the negativity that you feel. Furthermore, this negativity blocks the blessings you could be reaping. This is not to say that you won’t receive any blessings, but imagine the abundance you could be experiencing in all areas of life if you just “let go.” You could be overlooking your blessings that are right before your very eyes. Think about this: how is it possible to accept all the new blessings and new beginnings if we have not accepted the endings of experiences? It's like mixing rotten food with fresh food and expecting not to get sick. Everything eventually manifests—both positive or negative—but the outcome depends on what you choose to embrace.
How do you know that when you have or haven't fully let go?
One of the few ways I have realized when I am holding on to the past is when I think of a situation or person that did not turn out the way that I intended and the emotion that follows the thought. If I feel a sense of anger or hurt at the thought of an individual that did me wrong in the past, even though I have long since moved on to possibly a new relationship, I am still holding on to the negative energy that I acquired from that experience. This is not to say that you are to forget what has happened in the past. That isn’t possible because when the past is not in the forefront of your thoughts, it is still laying dormant in your subconscious until something triggers you to remember. The subconscious mind remembers everything and stores it because it is a part of your experience in this physical life.
Letting go is not forgetting; it is forgiving, accepting, and attracting positive experiences to become more aligned with who you are. You were not put here to choose suffering, so choose your happiness by letting go of emotions and people who know longer serve you and/or disrupt your right to serenity. Remember that time is not what makes bonds strong. Experiences—both people being in alignment with who they actually are—and actually working on becoming a better person for themselves as well as for the other person is what makes bonds strong and fruitful.
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